Gaming, Mom, Video Games, Working

Gaming in Real Life: Learning focus skills through Elder Scroll’s Skyrim

Everyone who knows me knows one thing. I have trouble staying focused. Think Dory from Finding Nemo in real life, and a person.

This is me every day. It was ten fold during both pregnancies. Often I would hear of my aloofness from leaving empty bowls in the stand up freezer, to completely forgetting what I was working on and starting something new….twenty times.

One of the reasons I love video games is the ability to focus my brain, and by focus I mean lead it down a rabbit hole of endless quest after quest, festering the need to jump from task to task.

It is also the main reason I cannot play Assassin’s Creed and Grand Theft Auto. Their rabbit holes are just way to long.

Bethesda grabbed my attention within the first five minutes of Elder Scrolls Oblivion, my first installment in the Elder Scrolls series. I was mesmerized by the scenery, the game play, the ability to leap and frolic where ever my heart chose like the cat girl I know I am deep down…OH MY GOODNESS! A BEAR!


Once the rabbit hole became too overwhelming I bounced to Fallout 3 and once again, fell in love. Once again, rabbit hole. Once again, overwhelmed.

By the time Skyim came around, the very first time, I still had the taste of all the other WRPGs that turned into rabbit holes. I threw 300 hours into it running around Whiterun, turning into a werewolf. Feeling overwhelmed, and moving on to something else.

See, back in my day (old grandpa voice with shaking cane), we didn’t have quest markers. We barely had a quest log. In some cases you had to buy the book, unless you were lucky enough to have the online access to gamefaqs. Focusing on the task at hand was easy, no shiny marker to lead you astray!

This is not to say I don’t enjoy newer titles with shiny quest markers. As a mom of two who works full time, I do not have time to Sherlock my games anymore. I LOVE shiny quest markers. Too much, hence my problem.

This year I want to work on focus. This year I want to work on a lot of things, but focus is a big one. Focus is a foundational discipline I need to work on in my life. It has always been a struggle for me and frustrating to those around me….love you guys…

“Well that is great that you want to focus, Jenn, but what does Skyrim have to do with this?” (Dad voice)

Everything. You see, Skyrim was overwhelming. It’s big, dangerous, and anxiety inducing. Quests, EVERYWHERE. Choices to be made! Why is that?

Well, one day I was standing in a town trying to find a marker on my mini map for a quest that peaked my interest.

I tried one direction, checked my map, and try another direction, but could not for the life of me figure out which way I was supposed to be going. Every direction I turned seemed to be the wrong one. So, what was my problem?

ALL MY QUEST MARKERS in Skyrim on the Nintento Switch

Do you see ALL those markers?

Yes, that is my problem and I see that now. Before you judge, let me explain.

You see, looking at it now seems pretty obvious, but I had no idea how many quests I had open, until I stopped and focused enough to truly see why I was failing to find the one I was working towards.

I figured turning off the major qyest lines would fix my problem, so I went down the list, but left the Miscellaneous quest category in case I stumble upon some little baby quest marker.

One quest and Misc. quests marked in Skyrim on the Nintendo Switch

That’s a little better, but there are still enough distraction to keep me from finding my task on hand efficiently, which is costing me precious gaming time.

One quest open in Skyrim on the Nintendo Switch

Well of course! I mean having only one quest marker on obviously will make it easier to find that one quest! Why is this taking a whole blog post?

Well, because sometimes it isn’t obvious. Sometimes youre so busy adventuring without a plan because all you know is you have an hour before the kids start fighting. Each time I start her up, I wonser around without a plan until something catches my eye. This means my Kajiht spends a lot of time dying simply because my immersion is not there. Focusing on one quest at a time, including little baby quests, is a way I can maximize that chance I get to game.

Bringing it back to real life, having goals is awesome but turning on all your goals at once can lead to chaos and feelings of being overhwlemed. Even small goals that feel like no big deal can add up quickly to become distracting, and honing in your focus on one task or goal at a time is something I’m trying to focus on in February.

Vetiver, Cedarwood, and Lavender are my favorite essential oils to use in a roller bottle to help me focus. Besides smelling amazing together, my brain tones down when I roll some on my toes and the back of my neck.

These bottle labels are the best in town 😉

While the oils do the trick, focusing does me no good when it is on the wrong things. This is where my brain power comes in to make sure my focus is directed toward being in the moment and present in whatever I am doing. Taking a step back in Bethesda’s Elder Scrolls: Skyrim helped me recenter my focus into the game and be more productive with the time I have gaming. These concepts can be applied in the real world, whether it is focusing on time with my family, gaming, working, or school. My time will be better utilized if I use focusing as a discipline to achieve my goals.

Any  thought about your goals for February? Is focusing one of them? How are some ways your hobbies have enhanced your real life?

Note about essential oils:  If you are interested in learning more or just want to chat about oils feel free to connect with me. Let’s achieve our best selves as we journey through this life with an open heart! ❤

Disclaimer: I don’t own the games, movies or systems mentioned on my blog. All rights and copyrights ect. belong to their respective owners.



It’s been a while

Hello there! 👋

How has everyone been?

I’ve been very busy, but life has finally slowed down a little. It seems I have seen the worst and best of humanity this year, and as it comes to a close, I have done a lot of reflecting.

We all have a story to tell, and this coming year, I am challenging myself to tell my story.

Skyrim on the Switch and Valor on the Wrists

In 2018 I want to be more attentive to others now that I have spent time building myself. Our family is journeying into our next step.

My initial plan for this blog was as a hobby to pass time while I was home with my son. 😂😂

If you are a blogger who blogs with young children, I envy you.

I barely had the brain competence to game after a long day of parenting, followed by a long night of parenting. Forget sharing things with people who are not bringing me food. 🍜

Now that my children are more self entertaining, and obsessed with anything Super Mario, the plan is to open up to new experiences and people, and figure out what makes us tick as a working gaming oiling family.

Here’s to 2018! 🎆🎇🎉🎊✌👏

My coat collar always does that. It hates me.


Obligatory Thankful Post

It’s that time of year where we all mull over how thankful we are, ya? I haven’t done this yet, but today is as good a day as any. I shall put it in list form, since I know so many people are so fond of lists. I’m looking at you, Gynji…..

1. My Fiance/Boyfriend/Best Friend/Soulmate: First off, I am so thankful to have found the absolute love of my life. Not only are we completely meant to be together, (seriously, ask anyone who knows us) there are so many paths we could have taken where we would’ve ended up living completely different lives. We have supported each other through good and bad. I do not know anybody who is a better partner, lover, father. Sure, we fight, but I look at it this way: I’m sure you remember that movie, Forest Gump, and that stupid quote, “Life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what you’re going to get.” If you get the Russell’s it tells you, with a nice diagram actually. The only way you don’t know is if you accidentally look at it upside down or something… Anyway, I think of it more in terms of, once you’ve eaten all the good chocolate, you have to eat the bad chocolate. You know, like the weird nougaty maple or something ones. He’s my box of chocolate, and I don’t waste chocolate.

2. My Little Man/Son/Baby/Child: It’s still hard to believe we made a human. A functioning, thinking, laughing, completely silly, amazingly smart, human.  From the moment we found out we were pregnant, we were scared shit-less. What the hell are we going to do with a child? We can’t take care of ourselves! We suited ourselves up for our greatest adventure, and here we are. You are an amazing child, who has the whole world ahead of you and I couldn’t ask for anything more. An amazingly textbook pregnancy (ya know, besides the 70 lbs I gained…I like food…) a perfect beginning to our breast feeding relationship, (with amazing support from above mentioned) a perfectly healthy baby. I never thought I would feel so accomplished in life, and I am so thankful for you everyday. I see things differently now, and I cannot wait to experience all the adventure life has to offer with you.

3. My mom: Nothing brings mother and daughter together like having a baby. When we found out we were pregnant, my mother and I had a very rocky relationship. As the pregnancy continued, I started to realize all the things my mom must have suffered. Not just in the sacrifices she made, but just life. She was 21 when she had me. By the time she was my age she had 4 kids in a country not her own. To leave her family behind because she felt it was the best for us, is incredible courage and commitment. While, I don’t always agree with her, she is extremely supportive when it comes to B and how we are choosing to raise him. My kid, my choice, and I absolutely love that. Right now, our relationship is the best it’s ever been, and I hope that we always continue down this path. She has shown me to be strong, and to stand up for what I believe in, whether it’s good or bad. She has encouraged me  with her actions and words, and shown me the meaning of hard work and persistence. I think for the first time in my life, I understand her. She has taught me to be open minded, hard working, self sacrificing; she is my fixed point.

4. My dad: This is going to come as a shock to some because my relationship with my father hasn’t been the best lately, but that doesn’t mean I am not thankful for all he is, and all he tried to be. When you become an adult, you start to realize things about your parents that perhaps you didn’t see, or just plain didn’t know about them. My father is a very different person now, then the person he was. I will always remember my father trying his very best to teach us integrity and self pride. However, the biggest lesson I learned is something he never tried to teach. Be Happy. I know realize that my father was never truly happy after his days in the military. Retiring left a hole in him that he cannot fill. As much as he tried, and still tries, to find himself and his own happiness, I don’t know if he knows how. That in itself is very powerful, and I wish he could see himself through my eyes.

5. Jeff:  My mom’s husband. They were just married in August. Even though I have only known him a short time, he has taught me so much about life, and myself. He is an amazing person with a ginormous heart who is so selfless, I don’t have words to describe. All I can say, is I am so thankful to have him in my life. He has opened his home, and his life to us, without question. He renovated his entire house to accommodate our family from Korea. I haven’t seen my grandparents, and aunts since 1994. I’ve never met my uncles, and cousins until this year. Just in that one act alone, he has completely blown me away. He is a grandfather to B, an amazing step-father to us, and truly cares about each one of us as his own. I have never met someone like him, and I am thankful not only for being in my life, but for my mom. He makes her so happy, and I literally do not have words to describe how that has helped our relationship.

6. Extended Family: We have a big family. I have 3 sisters, Ez has 3 sisters and a brother, plus they all have kids. Holidays are definitely fun. Although we don’t all see each other as much as I like, (I will admit I am horrible at keeping in touch with people IRL.) Throughout it all I am thankful for all of them. Family is very important. I have learned no matter how crazy or weird you think your family is, someone’s got you beat. As much as we fight, and as different as we are, I am so glad that B has such a big family. It is comforting to know no matter what happens, or if something happens to Ez and I, he will be well taken care of, and will always have the support he may need.

7. My life: Life is such a precious thing that can be taken away from us in the blink of an eye. I have absolutely no regrets, because every decision I have made has brought me to this exact moment, which I would not change for anything. I am thankful I am able to put my family first. I am thankful for the experiences that have helped mold and shape who I am.

The rest are pretty self explanatory.

8. Nap Time

9. Gaming

10. The Internet

What are some things you are thankful for?


Going Chewie, Inside the Home, Working

Going Chewie: Crib Sidecar

WP_20131111_004We finally did it. After months of trying to find a good time, we sidecared the crib. Last night was the first night, and he hasn’t slept in it.

Unfortunately we have one of those kids that grows, and somehow ends up taking up the whole entire bed. So to save our backs, we decided to sidecar the crib. It’s an interesting concept, and a nice middle ground between sleeping with us, but still in his own space, using things we already had. It also takes away a place for me to dump clean laundry and procrastinate folding.

It was super easy to do. First we took off the railing on the crib, then lined up the mattresses. I shoved a blanket into the back creice between the crib mattress and the back railing, so that the two mattresses butted against each other., and voila!

Now if only I can get him to sleep in it. Moving a sleepy baby is like chancing fate.





Let’s Make Some: Fried Rice!

Family photo 1994
Back in the day..1994 I think?

When we were little, we thought we were rich. Not because we had a big house, not because we had a lot of things, because we always had amazing food. Now that we are older, we’ve realized that we had Spam and rice for one dinner, a rotisserie chicken from the grocery store the next…you get the picture. Our mom always did her best to make sure we were never without the basics in life, even while 6 of us lived in a 2 bedroom apartment.

One of the dinners that she made was fried rice with a fried egg on top. I remember always putting ketchup on it into a smiley face, and it was one of my favorite dinners, and something I wanted to introduce my own family to. It is great for using up any leftovers, and I do mean any. Got some pork? chicken? left over hamburger? Make some fried rice! After years of struggling to replicate her recipe I finally figured it out!  I don’t know if your mom is the same, but my mom has NO IDEA how much of anything is in there. So if I say “Mom, how much soy sauce do you put in for 1lb of bulgogi, she will look at me and say “if you add too much, just add more sugar.” OOOH OK! lol. I went to school for chemistry, I need specific measurements, at least as a starting point.

Alright, focus, back to the matter at hand. The other night we had some makeshift chinese food for dinner, rice, pork drenched in Aso sauce, and sauteed green beans. Since, there is only two of us (B isn’t quite there yet) we always have a ton of leftovers. There are two reasons for this, a.) It’s impossible to find recipes for two people. b.) I suck at figuring out how much we actually eat. This whole making dinner and being successful at it is new to me. When Ezrah and I first got together, I couldn’t make Mac & Cheese without screwing something up. I never had the patience for culinary in real life. In game, sure!…. Actually, I don’t have the patience for crafting in game either… oh well

So i took all the left overs, and put them in one big container in the fridge. Here is my fried rice secret #1: COLD RICE. At least 24 hours in the fridge, maybe even 2 days. This rice was in there for two days. I tried making rice, and throwing it in the freezer and making it that way, but I would not recommend it. It comes out mushy. Sometimes it still comes out mushy, it’s ok, it will still taste good. Just make a note for next time on what you did and how mushy it was, and try something else! I also recommend having a giant frypan/wok/type thing. I don’t because I’m poor, so I just used a giant pot instead. It gets the job done, but not as much as a frypan would, and I think it adds to the mushiness, however, it still can be done.!

Ok so enough talk, heres some step by step instructions. Perhaps I can stay on point that way.

Things you will need:


~Veggies (literally whatever you have will work, green beans, carrots, peas, what have you)

~Onion (I only use 1/4 of a good sized onion, Ez doesn’t like a lot of onion, and he’ll only eat it if it is soft, or else he thinks of eating dragonfly wings….idk)

~Garlic (I use minced from a jar, because it’s nice and convenient for me, I also use 2 tsp.)

~Meat (Optional, but use whatever left overs you have)

~Soy Sauce (some grocery stores have CJ Brand, which I like a lot better than Kikkoman, I think it has a richer flavor)

~Sesame Oil (Very potent, use sparingly)

~Rice Vinegar (Secret #2. It’s not completely essential, You can do without it, but this is what I was missing for so long! The smell is alot stronger than the taste)

Step 1: Chop all your onions, veggies and meat into bite sized pieces. The idea is to get them around the same size, so they cook around the same time. I find however the longer it takes me to chop things, the bigger the pieces get ><

Step 2: Over Medium to Medium High heat heat about 1-2 tbsp of Sesame oil in a frypan/wok/pot. Add the onion, garlic, veggies, and sautee them around for a while, until they start turning soft. If you want them softer, cook a little longer, more crunch, less cooking. You get the idea.

Step 3: Add optional meat. Heat that up for about 5 minutes, until everything is the consistency you like and nice and blended.

Step 4: Add COLD RICE. Every recipe I’ve looked at says to add 2 cups. I don’t know how much I usually have, but it all depends on your desired ratio. The way I see it, as long as you have some rice in there it counts ya? Anyway, give it a good stir around a couple times. Rice burns very fast, so make sure you keep a close eye on it.

Step 5: Add 2-3 tbsp Soy Sauce and 1 tbsp Rice Vinegar. No matter how much you have, this is a good start. Stir it all in there. If your rice doesn’t look brown enough for you, go ahead and add another tablespoon of soy sauce. I would be cautious on the rice vinegar, it can be really potent pretty fast, and I find pretty much no matter how much I am making, 1 tbsp seems to be enough.

Tada! You’ve just made Fried Rice! And you’ve learned a new culinary recipe! Congratulations!

Do you have a fried rice recipe you would like to share? Maybe some ideas from your own experiences? Please comment and let me know!

If there’s two things I like talking about, it’s gaming, and food.

p.s. I don’t have nice look food pr0n, because frankly, I’m not a photographer, If anybody would like to take pictures of their creations, I will add them!