Everyone who knows me knows one thing. I have trouble staying focused. Think Dory from Finding Nemo in real life, and a person.
This is me every day. It was ten fold during both pregnancies. Often I would hear of my aloofness from leaving empty bowls in the stand up freezer, to completely forgetting what I was working on and starting something new….twenty times.
One of the reasons I love video games is the ability to focus my brain, and by focus I mean lead it down a rabbit hole of endless quest after quest, festering the need to jump from task to task.
It is also the main reason I cannot play Assassin’s Creed and Grand Theft Auto. Their rabbit holes are just way to long.
Bethesda grabbed my attention within the first five minutes of Elder Scrolls Oblivion, my first installment in the Elder Scrolls series. I was mesmerized by the scenery, the game play, the ability to leap and frolic where ever my heart chose like the cat girl I know I am deep down…OH MY GOODNESS! A BEAR!
Once the rabbit hole became too overwhelming I bounced to Fallout 3 and once again, fell in love. Once again, rabbit hole. Once again, overwhelmed.
By the time Skyim came around, the very first time, I still had the taste of all the other WRPGs that turned into rabbit holes. I threw 300 hours into it running around Whiterun, turning into a werewolf. Feeling overwhelmed, and moving on to something else.
See, back in my day (old grandpa voice with shaking cane), we didn’t have quest markers. We barely had a quest log. In some cases you had to buy the book, unless you were lucky enough to have the online access to gamefaqs. Focusing on the task at hand was easy, no shiny marker to lead you astray!
This is not to say I don’t enjoy newer titles with shiny quest markers. As a mom of two who works full time, I do not have time to Sherlock my games anymore. I LOVE shiny quest markers. Too much, hence my problem.
This year I want to work on focus. This year I want to work on a lot of things, but focus is a big one. Focus is a foundational discipline I need to work on in my life. It has always been a struggle for me and frustrating to those around me….love you guys…
“Well that is great that you want to focus, Jenn, but what does Skyrim have to do with this?” (Dad voice)
Everything. You see, Skyrim was overwhelming. It’s big, dangerous, and anxiety inducing. Quests, EVERYWHERE. Choices to be made! Why is that?
Well, one day I was standing in a town trying to find a marker on my mini map for a quest that peaked my interest.
I tried one direction, checked my map, and try another direction, but could not for the life of me figure out which way I was supposed to be going. Every direction I turned seemed to be the wrong one. So, what was my problem?
Do you see ALL those markers?
Yes, that is my problem and I see that now. Before you judge, let me explain.
You see, looking at it now seems pretty obvious, but I had no idea how many quests I had open, until I stopped and focused enough to truly see why I was failing to find the one I was working towards.
I figured turning off the major qyest lines would fix my problem, so I went down the list, but left the Miscellaneous quest category in case I stumble upon some little baby quest marker.
That’s a little better, but there are still enough distraction to keep me from finding my task on hand efficiently, which is costing me precious gaming time.
Well of course! I mean having only one quest marker on obviously will make it easier to find that one quest! Why is this taking a whole blog post?
Well, because sometimes it isn’t obvious. Sometimes youre so busy adventuring without a plan because all you know is you have an hour before the kids start fighting. Each time I start her up, I wonser around without a plan until something catches my eye. This means my Kajiht spends a lot of time dying simply because my immersion is not there. Focusing on one quest at a time, including little baby quests, is a way I can maximize that chance I get to game.
Bringing it back to real life, having goals is awesome but turning on all your goals at once can lead to chaos and feelings of being overhwlemed. Even small goals that feel like no big deal can add up quickly to become distracting, and honing in your focus on one task or goal at a time is something I’m trying to focus on in February.
Vetiver, Cedarwood, and Lavender are my favorite essential oils to use in a roller bottle to help me focus. Besides smelling amazing together, my brain tones down when I roll some on my toes and the back of my neck.
While the oils do the trick, focusing does me no good when it is on the wrong things. This is where my brain power comes in to make sure my focus is directed toward being in the moment and present in whatever I am doing. Taking a step back in Bethesda’s Elder Scrolls: Skyrim helped me recenter my focus into the game and be more productive with the time I have gaming. These concepts can be applied in the real world, whether it is focusing on time with my family, gaming, working, or school. My time will be better utilized if I use focusing as a discipline to achieve my goals.
Any thought about your goals for February? Is focusing one of them? How are some ways your hobbies have enhanced your real life?
Note about essential oils: If you are interested in learning more or just want to chat about oils feel free to connect with me. Let’s achieve our best selves as we journey through this life with an open heart! ❤
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