1.) There is no pause button.
2.) You can read all the guides and watch all the videos, but until you’ve done the fight/dungeon/instance you will have no idea what you’re actually going to do. The same goes for teething.
3.) Even though you can do most quests solo, sometimes you need to join a party to get something done. Example: A big poopy diaper with a rolly baby?
Spouse has joined your party! Need advice on a specific topic? Ask your mama guild!
4.) Always join a Linkshell/guild/Free Company. Find a group of like minded parents that you mesh well with, and stick with them. It doesn’t take a village to raise a child, it takes a village to raise a parent. Find your village. Ask questions, let them help guide you with answers and experiences. You can try it alone but in the end you will need an endgame group to help support you.
5.) Learn the Lingo. (DD, SO, DS, POAS, DTD, TTC…)
6.) Everybody plays the role/job/class differently. Just because you don’t find a certain ability useful, doesn’t mean another parent won’t. It doesn’t make it wrong or right, just different. so….
7.) There will be elitist dickheads. In MMOs. In Real Life. In Parenting. Nobody likes elitists. Don’t be one. If you find someone struggling, help them. But never, EVER, tell another parent how to do their job, or that they are doing it wrong. You may guide, do not demand. It is not your child.
8.) If you find yourself getting frustrated, put your character (or in this case your child) in a safe non aggro spot, and take a couple minutes to breathe. Whether it’s in town, a pack and play, a bouncy seat. Everybody gets frustrated. It is better to remove yourself from the situation for a minute, breathe and then try again. As long as your child is someplace safe, it is ok for him or her to cry for A MINUTE. (We do not practice CIO)
9.) They will consume years of your life and life of your wallet.
10.) In the end, you will love them the best that you can possibly know how, and everything will all be worth it. Enjoy all the moments you can, make new friends, smile everyday, because you are on the greatest adventure you life will ever take you.